Two commitment phobes dating
The following material was written for individuals trying to recover from a relationship that's had toxic consequences for them, and is not intended as a support resourse for Borderlines or anyone with BPD traits.
If you suspect that you have these traits, please leave this website and redirect your attention to Admittedly, I had a challenging time starting to write this article, because the bulk of people who contacted me about their BPD relationships had been men, but I kept getting letters from females who said, "what about us~ why aren't you writing about encounters with narcissistic or borderline disordered males, and they taught me about what to avoid.
No question, I was doing all the heavy emotional lifting in that relationship.
Tears streamed down his face, whenever I'd try to engage him on any topic we were struggling with--no matter issues that had already been fully discussed and resolved) in his effort to throw me off track, and maintain control.
Seducing women feeds his narcissism, and fills his core emptiness~ it's his addiction.
Since he cannot form solid/healthy attachments, he takes hostages. Initially, you may be intrigued with his unique openness and vulnerability, since you haven't encountered this in other males you've known.
At the very least, your physical and emotional health will suffer.These were the right men at the right time, and we enjoyed mutual admiration and respect.Whenever I met someone who felt a bit 'off' to me, I declined a second date.Some of these males present as little boys, ambivalently in need of rescuing or care.Their vulnerability comes across in a way that has you seeing them as open and genuine--but watch out!
Borderlines thrive on crisis, drama and chaos, which contribute to their sense of aliveness--it's the won't seek therapeutic help unless/until he's in crisis.